I Feel Ya: Too Long, Too Personal (part deux)

I know these past two are philosophical topics that most don't want to read, but after glancing at my co-blogger's post last night, I felt I had to mention a few things in regard to what she seems to be grappling with at a time when her life seems upside down. We went out last night to catch a few acts at The Basement and it turned into a sad song fest for me. I sat there and listened to these great musicians pouring their hearts out song after song. I revisited Jill's post and I got ticked over the fact that when the upper 20's are reached, most are inevitably jaded or else they've been living in a bubble. It's too bad we can't all remain unscathed by situations and actions of others, but surmounting lies and games take a toll after the college years. Why are more games played the older we get? Thus, all the sad songs like the ones I heard last night can be applied to our lives by this stage. Experiencing a failed engagement and never wanting to go down that road again. Being back-stabbed by a "best friend" of many years. Being cheated on and lied to by boys. Realizing that you still have alot of maturing to do even though you're an "adult". Dating the wrong ones (I'm talking one, inparticular, way worse than the "Sex and the City" post-it note episode from Season 6!), but remaining optimistic that an ethical, honest, fun one will surface-even if he provides just a short time of true happiness. Living in the same town for way too long. Losing relatives before they get to see what you make of your life. But it hasn't made me unable to express myself like my counterpart, it's just made me unable to trust as much as I once could. Those damn books written for women such as "He's Just Not That Into You" don't make life any easier and I would suggest more positive reads such as Eldrege's "Wild At Heart" if you want to learn something. So we've been jaded, just to varying degrees. Life happens. You learn from it, move on & pray that you don't find yourself in the same situations again. But if you can't trust, you will still parallel new people and situations to your past. Be genuine (so what if a girl burps in public and enjoys 13-yr. old humor? Someone will appreciate it some day, my real friends have for years), open, good-hearted and treat everyone with kindness and respect-you will reap what you sow. You just may have to face some obstacles before getting there. It's unfair if situations have made you reach the point of not being able to express yourself to those who are most important to you for fear of ridicule or judgement. You never move forward without communication. If they don't like you for you then you don't need them. Be true to those that are here now because you never know when they may not be. But that's just my 10 cents. Now I need to go and take my own advice.